Loneliness - What it Means
and How to Overcome It.
at one time or another in their lifetime. You can be in a relationship and
feel alone. You can be in a crowd and feel alone. Loneliness is a feeling of
being excluded from a group. Loneliness is feeling unloved or alienated from
your surroundings. Loneliness can mean that there is no one with whom you
can share your personal concerns and experiences. Loneliness can mean you
find it difficult to make friends.
Some of the Negative Effects of Loneliness are:
A feeling that nobody likes you.
Expectation of others to
include you in their activities and
conversations and if
they don't you may become withdrawn, angry or isolated.
A feeling that others are always evaluating you.
You have difficulty setting boundaries for yourself and standing up for your rights. You
might avoid meeting new people or attending any public events.
You become overly critical of your looks and personality traits.
You feel isolated, alone and unhappy a lot of the time.
Eight ways to overcome Loneliness
and bring more happiness
into your life.
Do some volunteer work. Helping others will boost your self-esteem and create new
opportunities to meet people with similar interests.
Get involved in Church or Community activities
Start making the first step in greeting people. Smile and say "Hello"
Take the initiative and call someone and ask him or her to meet you for coffee.
Don't judge people on the basis of your past experiences. Keep an open mind when meeting
someone new and show interest in them. Don't make assumptions about how they will perceive
Take some adult education
courses that are based on personal growth. For
example look for
classes that teach self-esteem development, forgiveness, how to be more
assertive, how to mingle, how to become a positive thinker.
When you are alone listen to self-help books on tape. Get some videotapes that offer
seminars on personal growth. You will feel a part of the audience as you listen to the
trainers and instructors on these cassette tapes.
There are many organizations that provide opportunities for their members to socialize
and network for new friends and social companions.
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