and the 3 minute Conversation Guideline
Singles are meeting by the millions through internet dating sites and other
singles events. It is important that safety be used especially with
First meeting tips:
- Go in separate cars.
- Meet at a coffee shop or someplace else that is also inexpensive and public.
- Meet during the morning or afternoon for first time meetings if possible.
- Pay your own way. It keeps obligation out of the picture.
- Don't give out your phone number or address until you're very comfortable with the
- Plan to keep first meetings to no more than 30 -45 minutes. If you are getting along
arrange another meeting.
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Be very cautious and skeptical about people you "meet" on the Internet.
Who they appear to be may very well be a work of fiction. At the very least, the
image that you receive via your modem and screen will be different from physical reality.
Read Rating the Internet Dating Sites
Check people out carefully before you agree to
meet and then use all of the common
sense precautions. Even if you date
a few times you will still want to verify that they are truly who they say they
Don't give away intimate or financial information to people you haven't met.
Sex - Should you wait?
We suggest that you wait for sex. Honor your principles, values, and religious
beliefs. Sex has a powerful way of creating feelings, obligations, and ties that
sometimes override common sense.
If you do choose to be physically intimate, practice safe sex.
The 3-minute Conversation Guideline:
People begin to judge you in the first moments of meeting. Conversation
involves listening. People will feel better about you if you listen to
what they have to say and carry on a good conversation.
Good networking involves the 3-minute conversation guideline. Share the conversation.
Don't talk too
long. Wise networking is to talk for about 3 (three) minutes and then give
the other person a chance to talk. Ask them open-ended questions to give them an
opportunity to carry their side of the conversation. If you are with an introvert or shy
person continue to ask open-ended questions to encourage them to talk for a while. Don't
try to fill the silence with more talking on your end. Show interest in the person you
are with. Some examples of open-ended questions are "Tell me about some of your
interests and hobbies?"
If they say they like to read for example ask, "What book are you reading now?
What is it about? What is your favorite book and why?"
Another good networking guideline is to not take over the story of the person whose
turn it is to talk. For example, if the person talking says they went to Paris last year
and you've been to Paris also, don't jump in with that information. Allow the person to
talk about their Paris experience and to share their story first. Ask them questions about
their trip and adventure. Then when it is your turn to talk you can share your Paris
If you want some mingling tips read our article on How to Mingle
and The Importance of Small Talk
Test your listening skills.
Singles looking to date or for love on internet
dating sites should remember the difference between dating, romance and
marriage. Marriage is a commitment while dating and romance should be more
about fun and personal discovery. Build your loving relationships on a
foundation of truth and understanding.
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